findatime is a free social scheduling app that finds when you and your friends are both free. You mark your available hours each week, share a single link, and findatime automatically surfaces the times that overlap — so you can stop the back-and-forth of 'when are you free?' texts and just make the plan.

How do casual plans work on findatime?

Instead of polling a group chat, you post what you're up for — a gym session, a hike, a coffee — along with a time. Share it with a Group so the whole crew sees it at once. Friends who are free tap 'I'm Keen'. No RSVPs to chase, no one feels pressured.

Does findatime sync with my calendar?

No. findatime does not sync with Google Calendar, Outlook, or any calendar app. You manually mark the hours you're free each week, which takes about 30 seconds. Your contacts and calendar data stay completely private.

Can I use findatime to catch up with friends overseas?

Yes. findatime works across timezones. You mark your free hours in your local time, your friend marks theirs in their local time, and the app shows you the overlap in your own timezone — no mental math required.

Yes, findatime is free to use. Set your availability, share your link, and start making plans at no cost.

How is findatime different from a group chat?

Group chats require back-and-forth messages to find a time everyone's free. findatime eliminates that: you mark your availability once, share a link, and the app shows the overlap automatically. For casual plans, you post once and see who's keen — no chasing RSVPs.

The "Virtual Coexistence" Habit That Keeps Long-Distance Friends Close

What is virtual coexistence?

Virtual coexistence is the practice of being "together" with a long-distance friend without actively talking — working, reading, or existing in parallel, connected by a video or voice call but not in conversation.

It sounds odd, but it's one of the most intimate forms of long-distance connection. It mimics the best part of living with someone: the comfortable silence of being in the same space, each doing your own thing, with the other person just there.

Why it works

It's low-pressure. No conversation to maintain, no performance. Just presence.
It's intimate. The silence is the intimacy — it says "I don't need to entertain you; I just want to be near you."
It's easy to fit in. You were going to work/read/do chores anyway. Adding a friend to the background costs nothing.
It creates shared time. The biggest loss in long-distance friendship is shared time. Virtual coexistence gives it back.

How to do it

1. Set up a video call

Open a video call — Zoom, FaceTime, whatever. Position the camera so you're both visible but not the focus. You're in the frame; you're not performing.

2. Do your own thing

Work, read, cook, fold laundry. The activity is your own; the connection is the background.

3. Talk when you want to

The silence isn't a rule — it's a default. If something comes up, say it. If a thought occurs, share it. The conversation is allowed; it's just not required.

4. End when you're done

No formal goodbye. Just "I'm going to head off" and close the call. The low-stakes nature is the point.

Frequently Asked Questions

Isn't it awkward?

The first 5 minutes are. Then you forget the camera is there, and it becomes comfortable. The awkwardness is in the start, not the practice.

How long should a virtual coexistence session be?

As long as you want. 30 minutes of parallel work is great. 3 hours of parallel reading is great. The duration is whatever fits your day.

What if we want to actually talk?

Then talk. And when you want a dedicated catch-up call, share your findatime link. The overlap finds the time. Virtual coexistence is for the in-between; the call is for the catch-up.