findatime is a free social scheduling app that finds when you and your friends are both free. You mark your available hours each week, share a single link, and findatime automatically surfaces the times that overlap — so you can stop the back-and-forth of 'when are you free?' texts and just make the plan.

How do casual plans work on findatime?

Instead of polling a group chat, you post what you're up for — a gym session, a hike, a coffee — along with a time. Share it with a Group so the whole crew sees it at once. Friends who are free tap 'I'm Keen'. No RSVPs to chase, no one feels pressured.

Does findatime sync with my calendar?

No. findatime does not sync with Google Calendar, Outlook, or any calendar app. You manually mark the hours you're free each week, which takes about 30 seconds. Your contacts and calendar data stay completely private.

Can I use findatime to catch up with friends overseas?

Yes. findatime works across timezones. You mark your free hours in your local time, your friend marks theirs in their local time, and the app shows you the overlap in your own timezone — no mental math required.

Yes, findatime is free to use. Set your availability, share your link, and start making plans at no cost.

How is findatime different from a group chat?

Group chats require back-and-forth messages to find a time everyone's free. findatime eliminates that: you mark your availability once, share a link, and the app shows the overlap automatically. For casual plans, you post once and see who's keen — no chasing RSVPs.

How to Stay Close to a Sibling Who Lives Overseas

The longest relationship

Your sibling relationship is the longest of your life — longer than your partnership, longer than your friendships, longer than your relationship with your parents. It's the through-line from childhood to old age.

And it's the most at risk when one of you moves overseas. The proximity that maintained the bond is gone, and the sibling relationship — which ran on shared history, not active maintenance — suddenly needs maintenance it was never built for.

Why sibling distance is different

You didn't "make" the friendship. Sibling bonds are inherited, not chosen. You never had to work at it — until now.
The history is deep. No one knows you like your sibling. The loss of regular contact is a loss of the person who holds your full story.
The guilt is heavier. "They're my sibling — I should be in touch more." The should is louder because the bond is deeper.

How to maintain it

1. Set up the system

Share your findatime link with your sibling. Mark your free hours. The system handles the scheduling — so the relationship can just be the relationship.

2. Find a recurring slot

A weekly or fortnightly call. The regularity matters more than the duration. A 20-minute Sunday call maintains the bond better than a 2-hour call every 3 months.

3. Share the mundane

Siblings are the people you can text about nothing. "Here's what I made for dinner." "Look at this weird thing at the store." The mundane is the texture of shared life — and it's the easiest thing to lose across distance.

4. Don't wait for big updates

The "big update" trap is especially dangerous with siblings. You wait for news — a job change, a life event — and in between, the silence grows. Don't wait. Send the small stuff. The small stuff is the relationship.

Frequently Asked Questions

How often should I talk to my overseas sibling?

Once a week is ideal, once a fortnight is fine. The key is consistency — a weekly call you keep beats a monthly call you cancel.

What if we're not close to begin with?

Then distance is an opportunity, not a threat. Some siblings become closer at a distance than they ever were in person — because the distance removes the old dynamics and lets you build a new, adult relationship.

What if they're bad at staying in touch?

Then you be the one who reaches out. Share your link. Send the mundane. The sibling who does the reaching is the sibling who keeps the bond — and over time, the reciprocity often builds.