findatime is a free social scheduling app that finds when you and your friends are both free. You mark your available hours each week, share a single link, and findatime automatically surfaces the times that overlap — so you can stop the back-and-forth of 'when are you free?' texts and just make the plan.

How do casual plans work on findatime?

Instead of polling a group chat, you post what you're up for — a gym session, a hike, a coffee — along with a time. Share it with a Group so the whole crew sees it at once. Friends who are free tap 'I'm Keen'. No RSVPs to chase, no one feels pressured.

Does findatime sync with my calendar?

No. findatime does not sync with Google Calendar, Outlook, or any calendar app. You manually mark the hours you're free each week, which takes about 30 seconds. Your contacts and calendar data stay completely private.

Can I use findatime to catch up with friends overseas?

Yes. findatime works across timezones. You mark your free hours in your local time, your friend marks theirs in their local time, and the app shows you the overlap in your own timezone — no mental math required.

Yes, findatime is free to use. Set your availability, share your link, and start making plans at no cost.

How is findatime different from a group chat?

Group chats require back-and-forth messages to find a time everyone's free. findatime eliminates that: you mark your availability once, share a link, and the app shows the overlap automatically. For casual plans, you post once and see who's keen — no chasing RSVPs.

How to Handle a Friend Who Drains You (Without Cutting Them Off)

The depleting friend

You know the one. You spend two hours with them and walk away tired — not because they're bad, but because the dynamic takes more than it gives. Maybe they complain constantly. Maybe they need constant reassurance. Maybe the conversation is always about them.

You can't cut them off — they're a friend, and you care about them. But you can't keep seeing them the way you have been, because it's costing you too much.

The right-size approach

The fix isn't to end the friendship — it's to right-size it. Adjust the dose, the format, and the frequency until the cost is manageable.

1. Lower the frequency

If you're seeing them weekly, try monthly. The friendship survives; your energy doesn't. The guilt of seeing them less is far less than the resentment of seeing them too much.

2. Change the format

A phone call is lower-cost than a dinner. A group setting dilutes the depletion. A walk is better than a sit-down meal (movement helps process the emotional load). Find the format that minimises the drain.

3. Set a time boundary

"I've got an hour" is a kindness to yourself. Open-ended hangouts with depleting friends are the most expensive. Set the boundary up front — and keep it.

4. Share your link, not your whole calendar

When you share your findatime link, you control what's available. Mark the slots you can give — not your whole week. The depleting friend gets the time you choose, not all your time.

Frequently Asked Questions

Is it selfish to right-size a friendship?

No — it's honest. You're not ranking their worth; you're noticing the effect they have on you. That awareness makes you a better friend to everyone, because you're not running on empty.

What if they notice I'm seeing them less?

They might. If they ask, be kind but vague: "I've been busier lately — but I want to stay in touch. Here's my link." The link keeps the door open without the guilt.

When is it time to end the friendship?

When the depletion is consistent, the friendship is one-sided, and your efforts to right-size it are met with resentment. At that point, letting it fade is not cruel — it's necessary.